A lot has been written about fixed and growth mindsets. And while adopting a growth mindset is one of the most important things you can do - personally and professionally - the way you’re thinking about growing your business might still be a little off.
Making sure you’ve got the right mindset for success will make a bigger difference than you might realize.
Starting a business takes a big leap of faith. Often times, you’ll find your confidence will waver, leaving you to doubt your decisions. When you’re not finding the success you envision, it’s easy to get discouraged. It’s easy to feel needy and desperate. It’s hard not to think about the money. Especially when you have a family to support. Every little misstep feels huge.
It’s easy to settle into the down days. But if I’ve learned anything, it’s that letting myself slip into the downs isn’t helpful. It saps your energy and often snowballs into more doubt, leaving you feeling worse.
I’ve never been one who easily buys into things I can’t see. So when people advise me to “trust the universe” or “have faith,” I find it to be easier said than done. I know they’re trying to be helpful, but that way of thinking was never really my bag.
Recently, though, I’ve come around.
I got tired of feeling frustrated one day and elated the next. It was exhausting to constantly think about all the things that weren’t happening. It made me feel like I was working too hard with too few results. I was emotionally and spiritually exhausted. I often found myself thinking, “When is it my turn?”
Realizing I wasn’t getting the results I wanted, I gave in to something new. I stopped worrying about what I wasn’t getting and started focusing on what I was. I changed my thinking from, “I have to get new clients this month ” to “Who can I help?”
It basically boiled down to this: “If I’m not making the kind of money I need, then I’ll just help people.”
And wouldn’t you know it…being helpful feels much better than feeling needy.
Are You Helping Others to Help Yourself?
Believing there isn’t enough to go around is a scarcity mindset. It makes you operate from a place of desperation and fear. And people (the universe?) sense it.
But when you focus on helping others, you’ll feel a change. Offer others something without expecting anything in return and you’ll begin to receive.
I know. It sounds like some fuzzy, Oprah-ish, spiritual mish-mash of wishful thinking. But I’m here to tell you it’s not. And I’m probably one of the most cynical people you’ll meet.
I posted encouraging words around my house. I meditated on moving forward. I began to change the words I used from “here’s what I can do for you” (too salesy) to “How can I help?”
When you’re willing adopt this small change in the way you approach the world, two things will happen. (1) The people you reach out to will feel your sincerity and be more open to contacting you and (2) you’ll unknowingly start to target the types of businesses (and people) you’re drawn to working with.
You’ll start to feel more positive. The down days will be less frequent and the way you feel about yourself, your business, and the world around you will begin to change.
How Do You Know What to Measure?
There’s an old adage: If you can’t measure it, it doesn’t exist.
But I’ve starting to realize that the immeasurable parts are the ones that matter the most.
I’m a big believer that you reap what you sow. If you want to reap success, you need to begin sowing it. [Tweet this]
Get clear on what you want, then make that the focus of every day. Think about it when you wake up. Make it the last thing in your head when you fall asleep. Say it out loud. Write it on the walls of your house. It might feel weird. It did to me too. But it works.
Obviously, I don’t know you or your situation, so no promises. But if you’re not willing to break out of the habits that aren’t serving you and try something new, you’ll never know.
Once I adopted an attitude of helping others, my energy changed. I landed three new clients in one week. Normally, I’d chalk this up to coincidence, but I have no doubt that letting go and changing my energy attracted what I was searching for. Of course I had to lay some groundwork. I didn’t just sit back and call them in like some kind of Beastmaster.
Can I measure it? No. Do I need to convince you? Maybe not. But I do know this: It feels like the breakthrough I’ve been searching for.
Are You Challenging Yourself?
I didn’t come up with this stuff on my own. Like all good things, I curated different pieces of it from different sources. One book that took me awhile to come around to was Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich.
Some of it seems a bit too “motivational speaker-y,” but I’ll admit it had a large role in changing the way I think and the habits I’ve created.
You might also remember that I won a giveaway from Mike Goncalves over at The Wellness Bucket. Two of the books I received from him have also played a big role in changing how I view myself. Check out The Power of Starting Something Stupid by Richie Norton and The Happiness of Pursuit by Chris Guillebeau.
Some pushed me outside my own level of comfort , forcing me to think differently. And I fully believe that’s why they mattered.
Give them a try. You’ve got nothing to lose.
Have a story of your own? In what ways have you shifted your thinking? What were the results? Share them in the comments.